Do Hotels Have Intimacy Kits? What to Expect at Your Next Stay

Have you ever checked into a hotel and spotted an unfamiliar little box next to the toothbrush and shampoo? Maybe you’ve found something with the words “intimacy kit” printed discreetly on the label. If you have, you’re not alone. Hotels today are far less shy about offering guests a dash of romance—or at least a bit of discretion—during their stay. The idea of intimacy kits in hotel rooms isn’t really new, but it sure raises eyebrows, sparks curiosity, and (let’s be honest) probably causes a few giggles behind closed doors.

What Are Hotel Intimacy Kits?

So, what exactly is an intimacy kit at a hotel? Simply put, it’s a small collection of essential items provided for guests who might want to get a little closer during their visit. If you’re picturing a cardboard box with sequins and feathers, you might need to lower your expectations—these kits are way more practical than flashy. Most commonly, a standard hotel intimacy kit includes a couple of condoms, a packet of personal lubricant, and sometimes wet wipes or mints. The presentation is discreet and usually designed to resemble ordinary travel-sized toiletry packaging.

You’re most likely to spot intimacy kits in upscale or boutique hotels catering to couples and travelers looking for a little extra privacy. Big brands like W Hotels, Kimpton, and even the Ritz-Carlton have offered versions of these kits in their minibar or on-demand menus. Some smaller, hip hotels make them part of a playful or romantic vibe, branding them as “naughty but nice” amenities. The point isn’t to assume what guests are up to but to offer a thoughtful touch that makes things easier (and perhaps safer) if the mood strikes.

Their design is all about discreet convenience. You’re not supposed to feel embarrassed or awkward. No one’s judging; these kits blend in right along with the sewing kit and cotton buds. Even the names are carefully picked—sometimes you’ll see words like “pleasure kit” or “romance pack.” Occasionally, there are extras like massage oil, a small feather tickler, or even a flavored condom for a touch of novelty. If you’re in a super-trendy place, you might find plant-based or vegan options, reflecting the growing demand for eco-conscious products in hospitality.

History and Evolution of Intimacy Kits in Hotels

You might think intimacy kits are a clever new marketing gimmick, but the roots stretch back further than you'd expect. In the early days of luxury hotels—think 1920s Paris or New York—there was an unspoken code of discretion around adult behavior. Gifts or essentials left for guests were seen as thoughtful, not scandalous. Fast forward to the 1980s and 90s and things started changing: travelers became bolder, hotels more creative, and inclusion of things like condoms in minibars did spark a few headlines (and even some controversy).

The wave really picked up around 2010. That's when trendy boutique hotels wanted their own signature touches, pushing the envelope with amenities that felt playful and real. W Hotels was one of the pioneers, famously launching the ‘Munchie Box’ which tucked in a set of personal essentials, including condoms and lube, next to snacks and bottled water. Other hotels followed suit, with the Ace Hotel planting their “intimacy kit” nudge in their minibar offering, and even some high-end brands introducing elegant, “barely there” romance kits for couples celebrating anniversaries or honeymoons.

Hotels weren’t just about comfort and room service anymore. Experiences mattered—and recognition grew that many guests were traveling for birthdays, proposals, or just a quick romantic escape. By 2017, it was almost expected that a swanky, modern hotel would have some form of adult amenity on hand. Fast-forward to today, and the contents of intimacy kits have shifted with the times. As people talk more openly about sexuality, inclusivity, and safe practices, some kits now carry female condoms, latex-free options, and LGBTQ+ friendly amenities. You’ll even spot contact info for sexual wellness hotlines tucked in at some forward-thinking properties.

During the pandemic in 2020, intimacy kit sales spiked in hotels—as single-use, hygienic packaging grew ultra-popular and guests craved a sense of safe, sanitized comfort. The hospitality industry noticed. Some research by market intelligence firm Mintel in 2022 showed that around 17% of travelers between 25 and 40 years old expect “wellness-oriented intimacy amenities” at higher-end hotels. Anything that blends safety, romance, and a touch of fun now gets a thumbs-up from a chunk of the travel crowd.

What’s Inside an Intimacy Kit?

The actual content varies wildly. But there are a few classics most hotels stick with. Condoms are an absolute must—usually two, to be precise—because one just seems a bit stingy. Hotel brands don’t usually skimp, either; they’ll go for well-known, trusted names (Trojan and Durex rule the scene, followed closely by the Japanese brand Okamoto in luxury Asian hotels). Lube is the next staple. Most hotels opt for water-based packets since they’re body-safe, hypoallergenic, and less likely to cause a mess on your fancy Egyptian cotton sheets.

Mints are an understated favorite in intimacy kits—even a subtle invitation toward fresh breath and late-night whispers. Wet wipes or cleansing towels often sneak in, too, catering to the “clean up quickly and discreetly” mentality. Over at the quirky end of things, you’ll find massage oils or miniature scented candles, and occasionally tiny feather ticklers or blindfolds. If you’re in a romantic bolthole in Paris or Tokyo, you’re more likely to see extras like flavored lubricant, edible massage oil, or even a sachet of rose petals.

Don’t go expecting Fifty Shades-level drama—hotels keep things PG-13 but practical. Some add thoughtful extras: latex-free condoms for allergy-prone guests, or female condoms/ dental dams in hotels with a strong LGBTQ+ clientele. Larger or honeymoon-focused resorts, especially in the Caribbean and South Asia, layer on champagne, chocolate, and bath salts as part of “romance kits.” But those are a step up from your typical intimacy kit, which focuses on sexual wellness and responsibility. You won’t typically see toys included unless you go for luxe or specialty “adult hotels” with on-demand extras for wild nights in. For many travelers, the kit’s mere presence is enough to make them smile, regardless of what’s inside.

If you’re ever faced with one, don’t be afraid to peek—everything’s sealed safely, and kits are replaced or sanitized between guests. Some hotels charge for them (anywhere from $10 to $35), and others give them for free in premium rooms or special packages. Want to know if your hotel offers them in advance? Check the amenities section on the booking site, or call the desk and ask. No shame; people do it all the time.

Where Can You Find Intimacy Kits?

Finding an intimacy kit in your hotel depends a lot on where you book. If you’re staying in a high-end city hotel, boutique accommodation, or a resort marketing itself to couples, the odds are pretty good. Brands like Kimpton, W Hotels, The Standard, Soho House, and Moxy often include them in the minibar or make them available from the front desk. Sometimes the kits sit right in the bathroom, hidden near the vanity, while other hotels add them to an in-room menu alongside snacks and soft drinks. Occasionally, a cheeky “do not disturb” door hanger doubles as a promotional nudge.

Some hotels in conservative destinations, especially in parts of the Middle East or Southeast Asia, keep these kits behind the scenes. If local laws or cultural norms frown on overtly sexual products, you'll need to request them or order discreet delivery from the concierge. In Japan, you’ll often find vending machines dispensing intimacy kits in “love hotels”—entire accommodations dedicated to privacy and adult fun. Nothing like an entire industry built around anonymous, no-judgment romance.

On the other hand, large traditional chains or budget hotels are less likely to offer intimacy kits by default. Their focus is usually on family travelers or business guests who don’t expect—nor want—extra perks in this particular department. However, private members’ clubs and boutique hotel groups frequently tout intimacy kits as part of their “guest experience” strategy. It’s more common in trendy urban centers, especially New York, Los Angeles, Paris, London, Bangkok, and Hong Kong.

If you don’t see an intimacy kit in your room but want one, it’s worth phoning the front desk. Sometimes they’ll deliver it wrapped like a room service snack, with total privacy. Pro tip: Book a “Romance Package” or “Couples Escape” rate, and chances are you’ll get one included with extras like bubbly, chocolates, or spa discounts. Some hotels even stock them at the sundry shop, right between the chewing gum and paracetamol—because reality, after all, doesn’t care for scandals.

And here’s a quirky fact for the travelers among you: certain honeymoon resorts now ship custom intimacy kits ahead of time for anniversary guests or newlyweds, tucked into welcome baskets—no awkward phone calls needed. Just check your booking info for “adult amenities included.”

Tips for Couples and Solo Travelers: How to Handle and Use Hotel Intimacy Kits

Stumbling across an intimacy kit as you toss your suitcase on the bed can feel like finding a hotel’s private wink to you and your partner. For couples, it’s an easy way to break the ice, spark a laugh, or roll into a spontaneous romantic night. No one likes running down to the pharmacy at midnight in a new city. Having essentials right there saves you time and stress. If you forgot your own or didn’t plan that far ahead (life gets busy, right?), hotel intimacy kits are a tiny blessing.

Handling the kit is simple: check that the condoms aren’t expired, scan for any packaging damage, and take a look at the lube packet ingredients if you have allergies. Since reputable hotels partner with quality suppliers, the goods inside are usually safe, single-use, and meant for a night, not a marathon. If you’re planning a wild staycation with your partner, consider packing your own favorites, since hotel kits focus on basics, not variety.

Traveling solo? There’s zero reason to feel odd about using what the hotel offers. These kits can double as essentials—a wet wipe when you need it, or lube in a pinch when you run out of moisturizer or makeup remover (trust me, it happens). Plus, the small sealed packages are TSA-ready if you want to toss leftovers in your luggage for later. If you find yourself needing something more specific (say, a latex-free option), don’t hesitate to ask at reception—big hotels usually keep alternate supplies at the desk.

Safety is still the game-changer. Any hotel worth its salt will never reuse kits between guests; hygiene is key. If you ever spot an opened or questionable packet, call down and request a fresh one. Privacy rules are tight: hotel staff are trained not to comment or question your request, so there’s no room for awkwardness. Some apps, like HotelTonight, actually let you filter properties by amenities like intimacy kits or romance packages—useful if those extras matter to you.

Don’t overlook intimacy kits as souvenirs, either. I know people who collect the cute branded pouches as conversation starters back home. For couples headed out on a road trip or anyone planning a surprise for their partner, swiping the kit from your last hotel stay can bulk up your own travel bag for future adventures.

Finally, for anyone curious: my husband Gareth and I have stumbled on a fair share of intimacy kits during anniversary trips. He still remembers the first time we found a maple syrup-flavored lubricant in downtown Montreal, and neither of us could stop laughing—romance, after all, is always better when you don’t take it too seriously.